With the added pressures of the holidays coming up it isn’t surprising that we find it harder to deal with day to day activities. Relations between partners can become strained or our reactions to our partners are out of proportion to the matter in hand.
Margarita Tartakovsky has written a helpful guide to Stonewalling – when one partner shuts down – and what to do if this happens in your relationship. For the stonewaller, she explains about the need to recognise when you are shutting down, how important communication is and encourages people to learn to soothe themselves.
For those whose partner shuts down, Margarita explains how important it is to recognise that this is a way of managing emotions and its not about the other person. She recommends talking before hand and gentle detachment and setting boundaries.
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http://psychcentral.com/lib/stonewalling-in-couples-when-you-or-your-partner-shuts-down/00020917